I have spent years condemning myself. Self-condemnation is a close cousin to guilt. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/guilt “I have felt less than worthy. I am not good enough.” That is the internal dialogue that has plagued me for years. Until this year. I have been on a journey of self-acceptance this year. It has been a struggle, but …
Throughout my life I have been on a quest for good friends. I discovered as a young girl that not all friends are good. Some people are good friends when they need you, but not when you need them. As I become closer to God, He has put people in my life who are truly …
There was a woman who asked on a single Christian Facebook thread if anyone knew how to battle rejection. I deal with the spirit of rejection in my novel, The Shattered Vase. However, it is much easier to deal with the horror of rejection in a fictional novel than to battle this evil in real …
Negativity can be such an insidious trap to fall into. Once you fall into negativity, it can be difficult to climb back out. There are many origins of negative thinking. Neglect, abuse or molestation in childhood can bear fruit in negative thinking. Injustice, helplessness and victimization are a slippery slope into negativity. NEGATIVITY CAN BECOME …
Recently, I was reading through Job. According to the Bible, he was a “man of complete integrity. He feared God and stayed away from evil.” He was also very wealthy and blessed by God. UNTIL ONE TRAGIC DAY… Within the span of one day, Job lost his animals, which included donkeys, camels and sheep. He …
As little girl I was an expert at creating joy. I didn’t have an idyllic childhood but if a stranger had seen me they would have thought I did. https://www.theshatteredvase.com/index.php/2020/09/01/bearing-a-grudge/ Most mornings i would wake up full of joy. The joy of the Lord was definitely my strength. Although I do credit God with my …
As a little girl I was excellent at bearing a grudge. My mother could be temperamental and, at times, cruel. She had a very shrill tone of voice when she was angry. Most days she was angry. I learned at a very young age that she had no self awareness of how she hurt others. …
Cussing is an easy thing to do. In 2020, we have had experienced some tough times. A pandemic which has caused people to lose their jobs, their lives and limit their social engagements. A year like this can lead to plenty of cussing. Is cussing a bad habit learned from others? When I was a …
About a month ago, the severe back pain started. It happened when I sat down. It didn’t hurt when I was standing or walking. It was severe back pain. So I called my PCP I had a history of pain in this area of my back, but it would come and go and was never …
Marginalization is a new word for me. I had never heard of this term before studying the ten traits of a narcissistic parent. Marginalization is the result of a parent which is threatened by their offspring’s potential, promise, and success, as they challenge the parent’s self-esteem. The behaviors of this type of disorder are as follows: …
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